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COLUMNISTS
TODAY'S STORIES
11.06.2008
"Smartphones" for Dumb Chicks

AlDaily links to a rip-roaring takedown of the "women's studies" strain of nonfiction by Bookslut's Jessa Crispin. She notes the obvious:

 

One of the unfortunate side effects of being female is the constant marketing of products as specifically “for women.” It’s not just deodorant and cheap pink razors. There are books, and then there are books for women. 

 

What's with the "pink ghetto," she asks? Men get to stand astride Yachts and Desks and Tall Buildings or McMansions on their book covers, while women authors are, on the margins at least, soft-lit and knitting. Crispin finds the Seal Press, an imprint devoted to publishing "Groundbreaking Books For Women, By Women," to be a damning example of the trend. Indeed, one could thumb through their catalogue and depart thinking women need reams of general, let alone gender-specific help.

A large percentage of the books Seal publishes are how-to guides. How to run the marathon, as a woman. How to grieve, as a woman. How to save money, as a woman. How to be a creative spirit, as a woman. How to find balance, as a woman. How to choose which books to read, as a woman. How to find “your true self,” as a woman. How to buy a house, as a woman. How to masturbate, as a woman. OK, actually, that last one is fine.

Of course, the world looks differently when you're a woman. And given that yesterday's York Times brought us--on A1!--the breaking news that women, too, have social and professional orbits that might require fancy "smartphones," a treatment of how much "help" women are presumed to need seems particularly timely. But alack--Seal books

 

read like more self-involved and less charming versions of Elizabeth Gilbert. In the anthology We Don’t Need Another Wave: Dispatches from the Next Generation of Feminists, L.A. Mitchell’s contribution is an essay called “The Healing Vagina: How Revealing My Body Rescued Me.” She writes, “I have always been amazingly happy when I’ve felt the softness of my cervix, when I’ve experienced how delicate and hidden it is.” This is worse than navel gazing; it’s cervix gazing.

 

That last line is sort of a cheap shot. But if it's typical, Seal's output does seem deeply dissonant with my own feminism. Which stems from issues of class and region and the historical inaccessibility--if not conscious rejection--of such introspective damselhood. I've always thought woman as butter-churning, baby-bearing, multi-tasking smart chick was the salient feature of gendered societies. We'll suck the pi'son out of your arm and then bake a pie--three cheers for womanly competence! Maybe this is part of a superheroine complex--but when tastemakers conceive of women not as natural problem solvers, but as beings who consistently require life in translation, I think we're heading down the wrong path. I'd rather take the insult alongside an "X for Dummies" book.

 

--Dayo Olopade

Posted: Wednesday, June 11, 2008 8:54 PM with 10 comment(s)

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GSpinks said:

Seems to me as if the industry skipped us Gen X types on a lot of levels, Dayo.

June 11, 2008 4:34 PM

williamyard said:

This is all of, by, and for the young'uns. Plenty of us old farts (male or female) could give a fart. As for the marketers, hey, they're just trying to make a buck. Them's fishin' where the fish is, is all. Folks that don't like it should stop being fish.

I could list some of my GF's "superheroine" qualities; she might even offer a few "superhero" quirks about me. But those would be beside the point. We look each other in the eyes, and at the end of the day we are overjoyed to see each other; that is more than enough. We love each other's competence and incompetence equally. Hell, if we weren't in some ways incompetent we'd have no use for each other, and what fun would that be? Competence in all things--physical, financial, moral, spiritual, emotional--is an express ticket to loneliness. I am fortunate to be happily incompetent in most matters and thus am in regular need of my GF, my family, my friends, my neighbors, my co-workers...even my fellow bloggers. Underachievers like us likely aren't the salt of the earth, 'cause we're too busy bein' the sugar. Choose your poison.

Once you get to our age (50+), all that "me" shit is too little, too late: humility is our guru and death is moving up our to-do lists. Who has time for self-help guides when our bodies and minds are getting all lumpy and clogged and our selves have, thankfully and finally, stayed home while the rest of us goes out to explore, on foot, not knowing exactly where, but beneath a clear starry sky with a trace of honeysuckle on the warm breeze to bring us full-circle around again to a forgotten childhood, and meanwhile the wind chimes are laughing along with the crickets?

Some men I know consider themselves feminists. I don't know what that means, or even if they are allowed to, but fortunately I don't lose sleep over it. As for me, I haven't stopped being a man but I take a little look from y'all's side when I can, to paraphrase Beth Gibbons.

June 11, 2008 4:58 PM

jhildner said:

Wow, that was indeed a "rip-roaring" take-down of the "pink ghetto," an apt term for today's girly women's culture dressed in bullshit "women's studies" garb.  You read some of this stuff and start to seriously wonder, Is this how other people live and think?  If you buy that gender identities are at least to some extent socially constructed -- and that's hard to deny -- it would be nice if society didn't construct an infantalized woman who, when contemplating starting her cute little business involving "knitting" or "vegan" cuisine, might want to think about making a collage of what her ideal clients will look like.  Complete with glitter.  I'm not making this up.  Read the article.

Now, none of this would bother me that much if it were just some more repulsive trash on the repulsive trash heap that constitutes our shared popular culture, which seems geared toward both male and female 12-year-olds.  The twist of the dagger is the misappropriation of feminist righteousness in the service of hawking Redbook for today's younger and dumber woman.

Consider this little slice of 2008, courtesy of the Times:

“It was a nightmare with the four of us,” Ms. Caputo said, ticking off a list of her sons’ after-school activities, including soccer, hockey and swim practices. “My sons have about 10 hours of sports. It got to be too much. It was confusing.”

Ms. Caputo said she and her husband regularly sync their calendars. She uses the phone to send e-mail to her husband when she gets home safely from a snowy trip, and to keep in touch with close friends who regularly gather at a local coffee shop. When six of them went to Las Vegas for a “girls’ weekend” in February, five of them brought their BlackBerrys so they could keep track of one another and their children back home.

Ms. Caputo is no longer using her husband’s hand-me-downs. On Mother’s Day he bought her a new BlackBerry Pearl, one of the company’s best-selling phones. “I don’t equate it to getting a vacuum or a blender,” she said, when asked if she would have rather received flowers or chocolate. “Besides, my girlfriend got a red one for Valentine’s Day.”

Replace the "Ms." with "Mrs." and the Red Blackberry with a pink Princess phone, and I'm transported back to the '50's, when, if Mad Men is to be believed, women spent all day smoking before lining the ham with pineapple slices.  I don't want to pick on poor "confused" Ms. Caputo -- whose daring "girls' weekend" in Vegas probably strikes some as liberated.  (Let's go flirt with guys!  He-he.)  And I agree with Yard that the marketers are just fishing where the fish are.  But it's still pretty disheartening to find so many fish in such shallow waters.

June 11, 2008 7:00 PM

chmclean said:

williamyard - just beautiful. Makes me think more deeply about my relationship with my husband. I'm not quite as enlightened as you are in loving his incompetence as much as his competence (or loving my own, either), but I'm working on it.

Also, as a Southerner, more liberal use of the word "y'all" would be a great thing. I've often thought our quirky, distinctive contraction of "you all" is grossly underappreciated.

June 11, 2008 7:05 PM

liberal reformer said:

I knew that this was a Dayogram after reading a couple of sentences. I think that our culture by its very existence refutes Parmenides and Plotinus. Pluralism is the order of the day. Take a bow Heraclitus; all is truly in flux. The normally highly astute Leon Wieseltier once wrote - in Kaddish, if I correctly recall - that H. was a sullen monist. Far from it.

Billyard: You low-ball your talent and competence in the blogosphere. I spoke to this the other day on another thread but you may not have seen my comment. I asked how is it that you are the most profound and simultaneously the funniest poster of us all? And can I have the recipe?

June 11, 2008 7:37 PM

williamyard said:

Thanks much, LR!

Fyi, I am threatening to start my own blog--going so far as to working out some details. Will keep y'all posted...

June 11, 2008 8:24 PM

jhildner said:

Yard, please do!  You'll have a loyal following right off the bat...

June 11, 2008 9:21 PM

purcellneil said:

"all that "me" shit is too little, too late"

Dear Mr Yard,

I intend to steal this phrase and use it again and again.  Try and stop me.

Brilliant, my friend.  Just brilliant.

Neil.  :

June 11, 2008 10:56 PM

cleavet said:

"Underachievers like us likely aren't the salt of the earth, 'cause we're too busy bein' the sugar."

Not only is this the quote of the year, it is the quote of next year as well. You the Man, Yard.

June 12, 2008 10:35 AM

blackton said:

cleavet, yeah that is a keeper.

June 12, 2008 1:44 PM